My story actually begins in August of 2015, two months before my husband and I got married. Over the course of the last few months I had noticed that my lower belly/pelvic area was very hard. After waiting months I finally decided to go into the clinic and get it checked out. I had a pelvic exam and an ultrasound where it was discovered that I had a very large fibroid on my uterus.
After months of appointments, ultrasounds and MRI’s, I had the fibroid removed via myomectomy in December 2015. I asked the doctor who performed my surgery if this will prevent me from getting pregnant. She said that my ovaries look good and there is no sign of endometriosis so it should not affect me from achieving a pregnancy. However, she said. Once you have one fibroid the chances of you developing another one is very common so I wouldn’t put off getting pregnant for very long.
In January 2016, while I was recovering from my surgery, I was having other health issues in regard to my joints. After running many tests and labs, it was determined that I had a “mild” form of Lupus. Again, I asked the rheumatologist, “Will this prevent me from getting pregnant?” Again, the answer was “no, it should have no effect on your ability to get pregnant.
So March 2016 we began trying. Month by month went by, negative test after negative test. Since I had the surgery in December the RE wanted to see me if I have been actively trying to pregnant for 6 months with no luck. So in September 2016 we went back to the same doctor to run some tests. The first test was an AFC count. I had the perfect amount of eggs- 15 in each side. The next test was a test to see if my tubes were open. Both tubes were open and look great! Now it was time to run lab work to check on my hormone level. All test came back looking good, except for one that was slightly elevated. However, it was not high enough that caused any concern. I was put into the category of “unexplained infertility” Since all tests and procedures came back looking good and I was ovulating each month, the next step was to put me on clomid to see if that helps. I took clomid for approximately 3 cycles and it did nothing!
This brings us to March 2017 when we hit the one year mark, I was officially dubbed “infertile”. We knew now that a pregnancy probably wouldn’t happen without assistance. So in April 2017, my husband and I went to the Twin Cities were we had a consult with the Center of Reproductive Medicine. At this appointment we discussed IVF and what that would look like. After leaving the appointment I was confident that we were going to do this but my husband did not want to. He was consistently changing his mind on when he would be comfortable with IVF, first it was summer 2017- he was ok with doing it then. When summer approached and I brought up IVF to him, he said “no, I think it’s too soon.” So then he said December 2017.
While waiting for December 2017 to come around, my sister in law sent me an article out of a newspaper in Grand Forks that discussed Mercier Therapy. It all sounded great! A natural way to get pregnant without having to undergo heavy procedures. I immediately contacted Lane and soon after my husband and I met with her. My first session of Mercier Therapy was in August 2017 and I finished all 6 just before October 2017. As the fall went on and I still had not conceived, I brought up IVF again to my husband, he STILL wasn’t ready. So I made one last compromise with him. If we don’t obtain a pregnancy by spring 2018, we will do IVF with Sanford in Fargo (we decided staying closer to home would be easier)
The winter came and in February 2018, we had a consult with Sanford Reproductive medicine in Fargo. Given my history the doctor did not want to jump right into IVF. She wanted to start with an IUI first. She made it sound like an IUI would be successful given my case. So my next question was “when can we start?” Her response, “as soon as you get your period, call us.” At this point my period was already 2 days late. It was nothing that I was excited about as my period had been late before but it ALWAYS showed up. I told her I was late and she said “Well, maybe you’re already pregnant!” As wonderful as that sounded I knew it wasn’t the case. As the next couple days went by I was getting very annoyed that my period had not arrived. I was very antsy to get going on this IUI and the only thing we were waiting on was Aunt Flo! I remember asking my husband, “Do you think I should take a test?” He said “if your period is not here by Friday, take a test” The days came and went and still no period. First thing Friday morning February 16th, 2018. I went directly to the bathroom, peed on the stick and came running back into the bedroom. I told my husband that I could not look at the test. He has to do it. I reassured him that if it’s negative, don’t worry, we have this plan and it will happen for us. About 5 minutes went by, I told him to go look at the test. I watched him the whole time, he picked up the digital test and came back into the bedroom with it. He handed it to me and I was shocked and immediately started bawling. It said “Pregnant” we sat there and held each other and cried and cried. We could not believe it. After two years of disappointment and sadness we can finally say that we are going to have a baby.
The whole “if you can’t get pregnant in 1 year, you are infertile” talk is a bunch of BS. It took us 2 years and it happened all natural! But that can’t happen if you are “infertile” So unless you have a test result or a procedure done that says “infertile” YOU ARE NOT. I believe this was all in Gods doing he knew when I would be ready and he made me strong and patient. The struggle is part of the Journey and I hope that my journey can help someone else out there not lose hope. It can happen. Don’t give up.
I am currently 13 weeks 3 days pregnant and due in October 2018.